Myself, being a 29 year old married woman with a child and one on the way, never ever thought i would be interested in anal sex. I have had many partners before my husband and never once entertained the idea. On our wedding night, after talking about it with my husband for months (he had never tried it either, being most of his sexual conquests before me were inexperienced girls and were all prudish to even get fully naked) i finally decided to try it. Man, we couldnt even complete penetration it hurt so bad, its one thing to eat the wrong thing that constipates you and when you pass it while crapping it feels like your ass is being torn apart, but its another to voluntarily have that feeling recaptured over and over and over. It took probably several tries and many different positions to accomplish the goal, and every single time it hurt terribly and i thought to myself "why are you doing this, for just one of you to get pleasure isnt worth a stretched out bunghole and all this pain"
but once we found the golden ticket, the perfect position, and i mean PERFECT, it became a ritual. And still is. Once out of every 3 times i'd say, we end up that way, and to my husband, who is grossed out by NOTHING, its like the ultimate rewarding sexual finale for him. If this pleases him, i can tolerate walking funny and a burning butthole for a few hours. Mind you, i love it, its something new, something exciting, something very erotic about it, the after effects arent always the best, but i am glad i waited and i am very glad its not as taboo as before, i would reccommend it to any girl out there. just if one position doesnt work, find one till it does :)

Yuck! Never in a million years would I even consider having anal sex. Not only do I believe it to be morally/biblically wrong, but I know for a fact (from the experiences of friends) that it is not medically safe. Your rectum is for voiding, not for taking in! I cannot imagine how much it would hurt. My husband and I enjoy a great sex life, and he's not into anal sex at all - it is, after all, your "crap shoot!"

I am a woman who has anal sex with my husband from time to time (and have done it with exes). I'm also about to shop for a strap-on because my husband and I want to try it with me doing him. So I am definitely no prude. I have to say, I hate this article. These men are disgusting and selfish, and they are objectifying these women horribly. And then they brag to their friends about it like they're in high school! When someone trusts a person enough to either try something new or do something that is sexually, physically painful for the other person's pleasure (and in the hopes of pleasure eventually triumphing over discomfort), it's unfortunate that someone would shit all over it by speaking about the act, and promoting thinking about the act, in such an objectifying manner. It's also unfortunate that this article ends on such a foul note, as if to glorify these guys' bad behavior and immature perspective.

"For most of my friends, it's sort of a domination thing," says John (not his real name), 30, a writer in New York. "[It's] basically getting someone in a position where they're most vulnerable. My friends enjoy that and they tell their friends they did it. But it's not like girls are ready for itit's something they do when they're really drunk."

This is rape. John (not his real name) is bragging about getting people drunk and doing things they aren't "ready for." That's rape.

Its called lube and foreplay, with enough of both anal can be fun for both, with no unpleasant buring.

And surprisingly enough men have assholes and can enjoy pleasure there. Shocking I know but you can find it a few inches back from your balls. You know what else your sexuality is not determined by were you get pleasure only the sex of the person giving it. Trust me give it a try you might like it.

Men who enjoy inflicting sexual pain on women because they think it's intimate have something wrong with them. It's also sad to hear women talking about enduring pain and discomfort for a man's sexual pleasure. Since when was sex not supposed to be enjoyable?

If men are so enamoured with anal sex I say buy your female partner a strap-on and experience it for yourselves.

Good grief, what a catalog of inhumanity! These men quoted in the article think it's acceptable to get women drunk and persuade them to do things they don't want to do; then consider them "disgusting pigs" for doing them; then admit that they enjoy inflicting pain on another human being. They're a bunch of sociopaths.

It is not OK to demand any kind of sex. Sex is supposed to be something you both want to do of your own free will. Sex that you don't want is rape.

A friend forwarded this to me because they, like me, were horrified by what he saw.

Is it ever OK to "Demand" anything sexually, Peter? Or, should I assume that the only way in which you and your readers get sex is by force or demand?

If, in the future, you ever do get a woman into bed, heres a little tip: the train in your ever so classy photo is headed closer to her vagina than her rear  furthering the point that youre the asshole in this article.

I have had my brush with anal sex, in the same way I imagine alot of sexually unsure, pressured girls have had a brush with anal sex.

We're going it at it, sort of, and he misses. He misses, but because I felt sexually insecure, I did not protest or try to correct him. He keeps going. I start faking some cheerleading. He realizes what he's doing. He keeps going. I realize he's gonna keep going. My ass hurts. I don't know what to do. It's the age-old 'I-started-it-now-I-have-to-finish-it' situation that kind of starts to feel like rape. He finishes. I need to wash.

'Til this day, Chris is unsure if I liked it or not, and will try and tease me about it. I didn't like it, and I don't care what it may cost me, but I don't do shit I don't like doing anymore. Mostly, because I know a man would never do it for me.

'demanding' sex makes you a pig.
liking a sex act because it hurts and demeans your partner (and no one is part of the BDSM community, i'm assuming) makes you a pig.
making sure she's good and drunk before inflicting your prick on her because you know she won't say 'No' makes you a pig.

in particular, an ass-raping pig.

It did seem as though the men in this article are a bit "pigish" It's a little sad if you must get a girl drunk to have sex with her. As far as these women who won't even consider it, I would ask you to do a little research and think about it. I am not currently in a relationship where I am having sex, but I know that the next one I'm in anal sex will be a major factor of our relationship. If done correctly anal sex feels great. Giffy put is well "lube and foreplay" are the key. There are just as many nerve endings around the opening of your anus as there are in the bottom 3 inches of the opening of your vagina. I think anal goes both ways though... If he wants if from me, then I think he needs to consider taking it too.

It is NEVER okay to demand ANYTHING from your partner, asshats! These dudes are practically rapists, depending on their partners to just submit for fear that they'll get left behind for a girl who'll open up a train station between her legs. And them, of course, everybody will think she's a dirty, dirty girl for doing what her "loved one" demanded she do.
It's a no-win situation.

And that fucking picture! Jeezus-h-christ, could it BE any more offensive without being X-rated? I don't think so.

You guys make me sick.

I like it, done it four times with two consenting girls, they liked it. Video'd it once. It's not such a big deal in reality. But secretly us men give it a "heeeeyyyyyyyy!" thumbs up when we've had it. And me girlfriends probably do the same.

Let's get real and let's get honest. Men who have to go up the butt of their significant/insignificant girlfriend's ass are men who are trying to manifest their inner secret desires to have sex with other men. "Brokeback Mountain" anyone? Anyone? Also, any chick who says she really enjoys having her ass ripped apart is a liar. See the lust in her eyes? You should see the look on her face the next time she tries to take a crap. Not a real come-hither-to, if you know what I mean.

My wife admits to enjoying anal when she is drunk (loosens her ass up, of course) and never regrets it the next day. So what the hell? Where's the harm?

This article here is proof that men are pigs. If someone were to write an article going both ways; maybe discussing not only men who demand it, and even men who are horrible, immature, and chauvinistic enough to call women pigs, as well as a view from the 65 percent of women who dont enjoy anal rape, maybe it would be acceptable. But this article seems like it was written by men sitting around burping, farting and drinking beers, discussing how they like to get women drunk, and treat them like dogs so they can inflate their egos a little more. Are you such mindless, butal, unfeeling animals that you have anal sex with girls so that later you can high five your friends about causing a girl pain, and then call her, that girl who gave you pleasure, the girl that allowed you to penetrate her body, a PIG? I can accept that some girls enjoy it, thats fine. But for men to think that every girl wants it, or to even expect it? Thats wrong. This is what internet porn is doing to our society. Women are degraded, and men think it is ok. I have two friends that I know of who have had anal. One of them wanted to try it. She had to sit in a hot bath crying, holding her boyfriends hand for an hour afterward. Another didnt want to admit that she had allowed it to happen when she was drunk. This article is an insult, and it encourages men to degrade, humiliate, and hurt women while they are at the most vulnerable position. Well boys, if it makes you feel more powerful, more manly, go for it. But do not think for one second that its just OK and every woman wants it.

pigishness aside, what this piece really says is that these guys don't know what the hell they're doing.

they don't know anything about women's bodies and i bet they don't know anything about their own. if they knew something, they'd know that plunging helter skelter into someone's ass is not only an unsafe sex practice (hello, disease) it's unskillful. how would they like someone's dick/dildo ripping through their second sphincter, huh?

and why isn't this piece talking about straight guys liking anal - on them? not manly enough? too 'gay'? no wonder men have the emotional range of a teaspoon: they can't even talk about what gives them pleasure without pairing it with causing pain to someone else.

what a man. oohh. hot.

This pathetic piece isn't nearly as controversial as the writer of this piece would like to imagine, or in any way insightful.

Some people enjoy anal sex, some don't. It's not a gender issue, and it's not a sexuality issue: some men (straight gay or otherwise) find anal penetration fun, some like to give and some like to receive. And the same goes for women, (hello Tristan Taormino!).

Sex should be about finding someone with whom you're compatible and enjoying experimenting together, not about forcing someone to take part in an act which you want to perpetrate upon another person, regardless of their preferences.

And in case anyone above didn't make it clear enough: ANAL SEX SHOULD NOT HURT. IF IT DOES, YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG, YOU NEANDERTHAL.

I would also like to add, I work in a sex shop, and the number of women buying strap-ons to use with their male partners is quite astonishing: boys do like it up the arse too.

What a nauseating article. Who are these clueless jerks, and why do they feel entitled to demand anything of any woman? Coercing someone who's inebriated into sex of any sort is rape. The guys quoted in this article are rapists. And the author clearly thinks they are amusing.

Disgusting.

I agree that consent is the key, this article is repulsive, and the 'men' quoted in it are sociopathic pigs. I'd like to ad this: anal sex causes long term damage including but not limited to rectal prolapse, anal fissures, secondary infections, incontinence and bleeding. Sexy, 'eh? And women are more prone to these problems as we age anyway, and anal sex speeds up the process.
Women who feel like they need to endure pain to please a man to make him like her are kidding themselves. No man worth having would want to hurt the woman he is sleeping with or coerce/rape her. Ever.

Oh, dude, that's HILARIOUS, nothing FUNNIER than joking about drugging and raping a woman! woo-hoo-hoo. Can we start making jokes about Deliverance and prison-rape now? Would that be really hilarious? Because I think it might be.

we're all adults. what two consenting people do with each other is their business. the men featured in this article are, lets say it together, disgusting! coercion or pressure has no place in the bedroom. i really dont think this discussion is about anal sex, but sex and popular cultures attitudes about it. and also, i like the photo pictured, very low-brow surrealist.

I'm not totally sure I'd call most of what was talked about in the article rape. I think it really is coercion though and sadly, that's really common and awful. But I wouldn't call that force.

The title is ridiculous because the article never really asks or attempts to answer the question that is in the title.

This writer chose an strange group of guys to talk to. He just picked some guys who seem to have a nasty frat boy mentality. They hate and objectify women, but not all men do and not all men view anal sex that way. And while these particular guys sound fairly sadistic they seem very far away from BDSM, which I think actually does involve more respect than what these gays are talking about.

Ha, and someone said about this article that they should write one about guys who like to get pegged, and women who like to do it to their men. That would be far more racy than this trite article. Wow, anal sex and fratboy types, so taboo, oh my! These are just the type of guys who view sex as something a man does to a woman, not something two people do together in a partnership.

And for the record, I'm a feminist, I love men, I'm not a whore, I'm in my late 20s, and I'm comfortable saying that I'm not only pretty hot, but I'm also pretty hot in the sack. And I still just think this article is trite and sad.

PE

Any sex that requires the use of force, even a "little push," is RAPE, dickblister. Look in the mirror. THAT is what a rapist looks like.

Um, I hope you mean "without consent", not "with force". I can't imagine anyone having intercourse without some form of pushing in a bit..

anyhow, that thing about anal sex not being medically safe is bogus. Only counts if you're an idiot and just try to force it without lube. I'm had little to no interest in it in the past, but my girlfriend asked for it, and well, I've pleased her that way a couple times now. She enjoys it, so I enjoy it.

But anal on the first date -- come on. That's stupid. Anal is not "the new oral".